asking more people, more of the time, about things I want to say, or have said*, and about things I want to do.
Not that I think they know any better or have even the faintest clue, like me, but because I now seek ideas to test mine against, instead of always being right in my own little world, and always doing what only I think about without there being any reflecting.
*(I have recently mucked up a number of key conversations at crucial times, and I think I finally had enough)